In my last newsletter we looked at five emotions and their messages.  Here are the last five for you.

UNCOMFORTABLE FEELINGS – We sometimes feel “uncomfortable” in situations or at various times of the day.  It can be difficult to even know why we feel like this, so whenever you feel uncomfortable, recognise it and know that it is time to change that feeling. Practice clarifying what you are uncomfortable with. Take some action instantly.  This could mean walking away or changing your focus.

INADEQUACY – Whenever you feel inadequate in any way, the message here is to do something to get better right away!  You don’t have to be perfect.  Just do one thing, take one small action step as this will make you feel better instantly. Imagine you had a meeting with your boss who questioned you about something a staff member had told him.  You had no idea about this and chose to feel inadequate because to you that meant you weren’t being a good manager.   So, ask yourself what did you miss and how could this have happened? What can you learn from this?  Resolve to take one action step.  For instance you could talk to the staff member who had the issue, schedule time at meetings for the staff to speak up, or set regular meetings for all staff.  If you felt inadequate because you thought you didn’t know enough, then do something to learn more as soon as possible.  This could be reading more on the topic, or re-reading information.  Just take one small step.

OVERLOAD – The message here is that you are doing too much and trying to take over the whole world in one night! (Can you relate to that one?)  Re- evaluate what is the most important thing for you in this situation.  Write down what are the four most important things to do right now.  Pick one and take action.  When you deal with one simple issue you will feel in control.   You will feel better and more confident when you take control of your events.

LONELINESS – The message here is that you need a certain connection with people.  Not necessarily sexual or intimacy because people can still feel lonely. Maybe you need friendship, or just someone to talk too. It could just mean that you care about people and want to be with people, so take action. Call someone or connect in some way.

DISAPPOINTMENT – The message here is that you need to realise an expectation or outcome is not going to happen unless you change your own expectation and make it more appropriate to the situation at hand.  Perhaps you want something now rather than waiting, so make a more realistic goal for where you are right now.  Learn what you need to do and take action!

To combat negative emotions, practice feeling these emotions every day:

Love and warmth; appreciation and gratitude; curiosity; excitement and passion; determination; flexibility; confidence; cheerfulness.

Remember, our mind is a muscle so it needs using and this takes discipline!  Consider this as a gym workout for the mind!  Our brain cannot remember the difference between something we vividly imagine or experienced, so fill yourself up with good feelings.  You never know, it could change your life forever!

WORKSHOPS

At my full day workshop on 25^th June I will be doing an effective and powerful process to let go of unwanted emotions, as well as learning more about communication, what makes us tick, how to communicate with others and why our values shape our lives.  At my half day workshop on 14^th May you will learn how our mind’s work, how we process and filter information and how we can start to change our thinking and increase our focus for great results!  Plus more! If you would like to learn more about your million dollar machine you have between your ears then you must attend. Call me on 0408 666 176 or check out www.mindsetforsuccess.com.au/workshops